您与其在顾家这么熬着
“instead of enduring things here in the Gu family,”
THE DIALOGUE REEL
我是觉得
“I think”
您 与其 在顾家这么 熬着
“instead of enduring things here in the Gu family,”
“Stop tormenting yourself for the sake of endurance; leaving is far better.”
In traditional China, women were expected to 'endure' (熬) in their husband's clan regardless of misery; urging separation directly challenges this feudal expectation.
LEARNING CHUNKS & PARTICLES
rather than, instead of
The first half of the correlative construction '与其...倒不如/不如...' used to reject one option in favor of a better alternative.
enduring bitterly, toughing it out painfully
Describes surviving a prolonged, grueling psychological or physical hardship.